G-1, Human Resources Policy Directorate
Supporting Soldiers, Families & Civilians – Active, Guard, Reserve and Retired
3 September 2008
Prior to her deployment, this 30 year old, National Guard SSG had a violent verbal argument with her husband. After 3 months in theater, she finds that she is still haunted by her memory of this argument. There is no relief from her husband; each time she calls home, her husband begins to argue again. During her most recent phone call, her husband stated, “The kids really miss you. You are a bad mother for leaving your babies like this. You are useless as a mother.” The SSG already feels powerless about her situation, and her husband’s last comments really hurt her.
She is talking to the Chaplain.
The Chaplain does not know:
1. She is feeling quite guilty about being separated from her two young children.
2. On several occasions, her husband has threatened to divorce her.
3. Since deploying, she has not slept or eaten well.
4. She has thought several times of killing herself using her own weapon.
At some point during the conversation, she states, “I am useless to my family…my children would be better off if I were dead.”
Scenario #7 – Deployed Female SSG