If you determined that you do not want children in the near future, then you DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED now. It's that simple.
If you decided that you want children in the next few years, then you need to find a woman who'll make a good wife and mother to your children.
The National Marriage Project (marriage.rutgers.edu) puts out marriage-related studies. Their 2004 essay called The Marrying Kind: Which Men Marry and Why studied a group of married men. Only 35% of these men said they got married because they were ready to have children, yet 70% of these men ended up having children. That means that one out of three men had children without really wanting them.
This is not an anti-children book. Children are great if you want them. But the reality of the life in the west is that having children without wanting them is something you are likely to regret in the future.
You determined that you do not want children in the near future.
You don't want children is the same as you don't want to get married. The ONLY reason to get married is to have children and start a family. You already decided that you don't want children for now, so you
surely don't want a wife either.
You don't want to get married means that you have to be very careful about being in a serious relationship with an American woman. American woman in a "serious" relationship will put pressure on you to get married and start a family 2-3 years into the relationship (sometimes much earlier). You'll be pressured to do what you don't really want to do.
I would highly recommend that you just have sex and have casual relationships with American women. The relationship should be over as soon as she starts controlling you, nagging, or sex becomes boring.
Do yourself a favor and stick to these basic rules when dating American women:
1. Do not move in with her. You NEED an option to easily get rid of her at any time for any reason.
2. Do not accidentally have children with her.
3. Get rid of her as soon as she starts pressuring you into marriage, nagging, bitching, controlling sex, controlling you, etc... You should look for an alternative girlfriend while dating an American
woman. Never forget that your American girlfriend is only temporary. Continue living your life as if you were single. It is very important for two reasons.
1) You might meet a foreign girl who will make a good long-term partner and with whom you can have a real relationship.
2) You will start getting too used to your present American girlfriend and she will start controlling you.
You decided that you want to have kids in the next few years.
You now need to find a woman who will make a good wife and a good mother. It's better for your