Guided Imagery: Visualize the Difference
Think back over the recent past and think of a situation in which you had sex that you really weren't into. Either you weren't in the mood or into the person, the situation, or the specific kind of sex. Try to remember what you were feeling as you went through the experience. Where were you? What were you doing? What were you feeling? Think about the physical sensations (like a pit in your stomach), the emotional experience (like feelings of anxiety or sadness). What kinds of things did you say to yourself during and after the experience?
Now think of a second situation in which you had sex that you really wanted. Again think about the physical, emotional, and spiritual sensations that gave you the information that this was a good situation for you to be in. Where were you? What were you doing? What were you feeling? Where did you get the information that this was a good situation for you?
What are the internal cues that give you the most information about what a sexual situation provides for you emotionally, physically, and spiritually?
Focus on those same internal cues. What do they tell you about having sex without crystal? What feels safe and what feels scary?
Session 4: A Private Matter