Change your thoughts or behavior
What you think and what you do can both change feelings.
Sometimes changing the way you are thinking about something will help reduce the intensity of your feelings. You can change, "I am so angry because he s wrong and I
right!" to "It's
okay for someone to not agree with me and using really won
Similarly, changing what yo
e doing is another way of coping with
feelings. Have you ever taken a long walk noticed that you feel better after your walk?
Climb on the surfboard
As with cravings, sometimes the best way to deal with feelings is to ride them out otion surfing. Sometimes people are afraid that if they let themselves actually feel their feelings, they be stuck in that space forever. This is not true. If you allow yourself to feel it and express it to someone else, it will pass and often
eel much better for having let it out.
Sit It Out or Butt Therapy
Practice sitting something else.
Finish a task, write a letter, or simply wait for
not exciting, but it works.
The idea here is to not let outofcontrol feelings drive you back to using. Learning to deal with emotions means allowing yourself to feel. Learning to balance thinking and feeling will guide your behavior. It will also help to keep you centered and improve your ability to process strong feelings.
Session 19: What About These Feelings?