or unusual behavior for a long period of time, seek help from professionals. Every child is different and you know your kids best, so keep a close eye on them during and after the split to see whether or not they are adjusting to the changes.
One way to help prepare for some of the things that can come up with your kids is to develop a written parenting plan. Some courts will order parents to adopt a legal parenting plan. Even if the court doesn’t require it, parents can adopt an informal written plan that is an agreement you and the other parent make about how to handle raising your kids.
By having some of these things thought out and written down, you can avoid some of the conflicts that are likely to come up at various stages in a child’s life. For example:
Zero to One Year Babies at this age are beginning to form attachments, so it is important to minimize changes and disruptions in their lives and show them love and affection. It’s also important that they spend time with both parents so they can form attachments with both. Signs of distress are excessive crying, problems with feeding or sleeping, and withdrawal.
One to Three Years Babies and toddlers at this age are becoming more mobile and gaining communication skills. They are also able to recognize close adults, so they are sensitive to separation. These kids need consistency in routine and patience from their parents to safely explore their environment. Signs of distress are nightmares, mood changes, and changes in toileting.
Three to Five Years Kids at this age believe they are the center of the universe, and so they feel