GATEWAY TO HAPPINESS
3. Once you realize that the source of your emotional distress is your own thoughts, you will be more motivated to think thoughts of appreciation and gratitude. Your own thoughts will then be the source of your happiness. I suggest that you read this paragraph over and over again until you totally get it. This is life transforming. (ZP, 2008)
4. Write a list of things you have overlooked appreciating in the past. Be resolved to start feeling grateful for those things.
5. When you look back at your past, focus on the things you can be grateful for. (Rabbi Eliezer Zev Luft; Tnuas Hamussar, vol.5, p.302)
All too often people think of their past in terms of their sorrows and problems. Your being alive today means you were able to meet your basic needs until now. Be grateful for that.
Learn to focus on the positive qualities of each situation.
Every season has its positive qualities and its special difficulties. Make it your
habit to focus on what is positive.
As Rabbi Avigdor Miller wrote we have the ability to: “Delight in spring, revel in the sunny summer, love the vitality of autumn, and relish the bracing winter, and perpetually be grateful.” (Awake, My Glory, p.369)
2. It is easy to focus on the hardships of rain. Train yourself to think of the benefits instead.
2.6 Appreciate life. As long as we are alive, we can think to ourselves, “How happy I would be if I obtained a large amount of money. No amount of money, however, can compare to the greater value of life itself. (Pele Yoaitz: simcha)
Sit down for a few minutes and imagine being the recipient of great wealth. Imagine the pleasure and joy you would feel. Actually try to experience that great feeling. Now transfer that pleasure to the pleasure of living.
APPRECIATING WHAT YOU HAVE