GATEWAY TO HAPPINESS
8. We constantly talk to ourselves. We can choose to be our own best friend by telling ourselves positive thoughts, or our own worst enemy by repeating negative thoughts.
The story is told of a worker who always brought jelly sandwiches from here to lunch. A co-worker hear him mutter to himself, “Oh no, it’s a jelly sandwich again. I hate jelly.” The co-worker asked, “Why don’t you tell your wife to make you a different kind of sandwich?”
“My wife doesn’t make my sandwiches. I make them myself,” was the reply. A person who makes himself miserable by repeating to himself negative thoughts is acting just as foolishly as this worker with his jelly sandwiches. He is needlessly making himself miserable.
9. A person whose major focus is on what is wrong with himself or his environment or what might go wrong in the future is not thinking about the positive things of life. Such a person will be unhappy. To overcome this tendency, make a conscious effort to keep your main focus on what is positive in life and on obtaining spiritual growth. By mastering this you gain in two ways. These thoughts will put you in a state of happiness, and they will prevent you from thinking negative thoughts.
Your attitude is a key factor to your reaction.
What you tell yourself about a given situation is the way that situation will affect
you. Your attitude towards any event or situation is not based on its objective reality, but on your own subjective evaluation of the event or situation.
2. Facts themselves are neutral. You do not have emotional reactions to facts. Your emotional reaction is always based on your subjective evaluation of any situation:
When you evaluate something as negative, awful, tragic, or a misfortune, you will feel sad, depressed, miserable, angry, or full of anxiety.
When you think that something does not affect you in any way and are apathetic to it, you will feel neutral.
When you evaluate something as good for you, you will react with happiness or joy.
While you might automatically react in a certain way, you can mentally
challenge your initial perception of the situation and perceive it in a more positive manner. You might have view frustrating situations as awful, and therefore might have reacted with anger or sadness. However you can now view frustrating
HAPPINESS IS DEPENDENT ON YOUR THOUGHTS