GATEWAY TO HAPPINESS
tired vehicles moving swiftly and noiselessly over their smooth expanse, would eliminate a greater part of the nervousness and strain of modern metropolitan life.”
Just as new inventions will not automatically give peace of mind, neither will wealth, the collecting of skills, degrees, and possessions, nor the achievements of fame, power, or prestige. The only way to master peace of mind is to master the attitudes that foster it – and this is an internal process, not an external one.
By accepting whatever happens, you will be able to have peace of mind.
Logical and rational thinking shows us that since it is impossible for a person to
save himself from the difficulties and misfortunes of life, it makes sense to accept them with a positive attitude. This ensures a person a happy life. (Chochmah Umussar, vol.2, p.153)
2. Rabbi Mordechai of Lekhivitz, a Chassidic master, used to say, “If things do not go the way you wish them to be, you should wish them to be the way they are in reality.” (Magdolai Hatorha Vachasidus, vol. 20. p.107)
I would highly advise you to repeat this thought many times until it become part of your thinking. Mastery of this attitude can transform a person’s life.
3. A person who accepts calmly whatever is beyond his control is the truly wealthy person. (Mivchar Hapeninim, p. 24)
A person needs to master the skill of accepting things as they are when they cannot be changed, and to calmly plan on changing them when they can be changed in order to gain peace of mind. When things do not go the way you would like them to, why add to your loss by making yourself miserable? You have a choice. You can repeat to yourself, “How awful,” and add to your suffering. On the other hand, you can try to find some positive aspects in your present situation or focus on something else. It is senseless and irrational to choose to think in ways that cause you misery when you can choose to think in a way that will lead to peace of mind.
4. In order to have peace of mind prepare yourself in advance to accept with serenity whatever occurs. People who expect everything in life to go the way they wish are caught off balance by difficult life situations. Have an awareness that difficulties constantly arise. Being prepared in advance to accept what happens make it much easier to cope with the vicissitudes of life. (letter in Ohr Yechezkail: michtavim, p. 286)
PEACE OF MIND