GATEWAY TO HAPPINESS
9. Many routine actions that we do every day can be elevated by focusing on the kindness that you are doing. For example, when you are going shopping for your family, you can focus on the fact that you are doing acts of kindness.
When you say good morning to someone, focus on the fact that you are giving him a blessing.
When you hand something to someone, realize that you are doing an act of kindness.
10. When parents focus on the kindness that they are doing for their children, they can elevate all that they are doing for them. Child-raising has much potential for frustration, but by having loftier thoughts it can be transformed into the source of much joy.
11. A storekeeper or craftsman can elevate his daily behaviors by focusing on how he is helping other people. (Rabbi Yisroel Salanter, cited in Michtav MaiEliyahu, vol. 1, p.34-5)
When you are engaged in any job or occupation, focus on how you are helping other people. (Chochmah Umussar, vol. 2, p.95)
12. When you are engaged in acts that others consider drudgery and boring, you are likely to become influenced by them and view what you are doing the way they do. But you can overcome this tendency. Think of ways that you can enhance the spiritual aspects of your life while you are doing whatever you are doing.
13. Develop the habit of listening to educational and inspirational recordings while your hands are occupied but your mind is free.
Joy through growth.
There is no greater joy for a wise person than the joy of improving character
traits. When someone reaches this level, he will even feel joy if someone insults him and he sees that he is free from animosity and resentment. (Chazon Ish; Emunah Ubitochon, 4:15)
2. Take pleasure every time you do not get angry when you might have. Take pleasure every time you are patient with others. Take pleasure in overcoming harmful desires. Take pleasure in reacting positively instead of feeling envious about someone’s accomplishments.
THE JOY OF ACTS OF KINDNESS