GATEWAY TO HAPPINESS
7.5 Be careful not to harm others. We should be careful not to cause suffering to others out of love for humanity. In the context of the conquest of happiness, we should be careful not to harm others as we will ultimately suffer when we cause suffering to others. Some main areas to watch out for are:
Refrain from insulting others.
Refrain from talking negatively about others unless it is necessary for a practical and constructive purpose.
Refrain from lying to others.
Refrain from deceiving others in financial matters.
Refrain from causing others pain or unpleasantness through your actions or words. (Mesilas Yeshorim, ch.19)
Refrain from causing others financial loss.
Pray for others.
Pray for the welfare of others even when they are not aware you are praying for
them. (Chofetz Chayim; Ahavas Chesed, part 3, ch.8)
Every person we meet has needs for which we can pray: success in spiritual matters, success in financial matters, good health, a good marriage, or raising their children properly. Saying a quiet prayer for the people you meet, even complete strangers, will give you much more positive feelings towards people. You have as much to gain as the recipient of your prayers.
2. When Rav Zushe would awake in the morning, he would say, “I wish a good morning to everyone.” (Gan Hachasidus, p.131)
3. At times, Rabbi Noson Tzvi Finkel of Slobodka would sit near the window of his house and quietly bestow blessings and prayers on all those who passed by. One of Rabbi Finkel’s students related that he was once walking with his teacher and they passed the home of a member of the faculty of the yeshiva. Rabbi Finkel turned towards the house and said, “Good morning.” The student was puzzled about this since he did not see anyone around. Noticing the student’s surprise, Rabbi Finkel explained, “Most people only bless that someone should have a good morning or a good day when they see that person face to face. But even when we do not see them, we should still develop the habit of blessing them.” (Hameoros Hagdolim, p. 233)