FLEEING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.”
When do you know it’s time for you to flee from a domestic violence situation? David faced this question in his relationship with King Saul. In this study we will look at how David made this decision, and how he carried it out.
Read 1 Samuel 18:8-11. After Saul becomes angry and jealous, an evil spirit comes over him, and he tries to kill David.
Read 1 Samuel 19:10. After Saul tries to spear him again, David understands that this is a pattern that will repeat itself. He is sure now that he is in physical danger. He confides in the prophet Samuel and in Saul’s son Jonathan, people he trusted. Though it can be hard for victims to break the silence, it is important that they confide about their situation to people they trust. This support can help victims to do what they must in order to stay safe and end the violence, and to get the help they need.
Question 1: Do you remember a particular point at which you realized that you were in an abusive relationship? If it was dangerous, can you remember a point at which you became certain about it?
Question 2: In what ways can we try to excuse, explain away, or minimize our abuser’s behavior as we try to make sense of what is happening in the relationship?
Read 1 Samuel 20:2. At first, not even David’s close friend Jonathan believed David, but David persisted and enlisted Jonathan’s assistance. Victims may find that some people, even family and those closest to them, do not believe the abuse, however, they should persist in developing a network of resource people who will help them.