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TYPES OF VERBAL ABUSE

Belittling

Belittling "puts down" the victim and invalidates her opinions or feelings. Or it may be designed to tell the victim that her concerns or accomplishments are insignificant.  Belittling statements may be patronizing put-downs such as, "Well, that's nice that it gives you something to do."

Some belittling statements include:

You can't take a joke.

You're too sensitive.

You don't know what you're talking about.

You're making a big deal out of nothing.

You always have to have something to complain about.

Countering and Correcting

Countering shuts down the discussion and opposes denies the victim's reality. The abuser argues against her thoughts, her opinions, and her reality.  By negating her views, the abuser feels he is maintaining his control and dominance over her.

Abusive “Jokes”

Put-downs disguised as jokes often refer to woman’s gender, to her mental abilities, or to her competency.  This can include statements such as:

You need a keeper!

What else can you expect from a woman?

You couldn't find you head if it wasn't attached.

Holding Out The abuser who refuses to share himself with his partner, who ignores or refuses to listen to her, or who refuses to share information is violating the premise of a relationship. Holding back emotional support erodes confidence and determination.  Holding out includes refusal to communicate, and statements such as:

There's nothing to talk about.

You wouldn't be interested.

It's none of your business.

Side-Tracking and Shutting Down

Forcing the discussion off track, shutting it down, or changing the subject are ways to control and frustrate the conversation.  Sometimes accusing and blaming are used to hijack the discussion and throw the victim off balance.  Some shutting-down statements are:

You're just trying to have the last word.

I don't want to talk about it anymore.  

Just drop it!

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