Uses his position or power as a license to abuse
Had difficulty loving his son
Probable trauma or generational sin in his upbringing (see Judges 20)
Can at times seem "possessed" or "out of his mind"
As you read these chapters in the Bible, you will also see that David’s experiences matched those of many domestic violence victims today. He:
Tried to appease his abuser and had to "walked on eggshells" around him
Found that all his efforts to appease his abuser and avoid violence didn’t work
Grew up with abuse in his family of origin: his brothers were abusive to him, and father treated him as inferior
Found that some people were not willing to believe he was being abused
Was stalked after fleeing his abuser
The story of Saul and David has much to teach us about dealing with domestic violence. We have a God who provides wisdom from His Word to meet our every need (2Timothy 3:16) and who has promised to teach and guide us (Psalm 25:8, 9; Psalm 23:3)!
An abuser's background may provide clues for predicting future abuse: growing up with abuse; having trouble with authorities or the law; abusing a previous partner. Can you see any of these patterns in an abusive person you have known?