to them do not delve in with their same intensity. They see them as unreliable and unavailable, (Stein, H.; Jacobs, N.J.; Ferguson, K.S.; Allen, J.G. & Fonagy, P., 1998) yet they rely on them for their self-esteem. This negative self-negative others view characterizes them.
Dismissing types (the first of the two branches of the type previously called insecure-avoidant) avoid relationships because of emotional detachment. They do not value attachment relationships and instead overly emphasize the importance of autonomy and achievement. They claim to not remember childhood and are quick to rationalize the acts of their detached or overachieving parents. They are uncomfortable with dependency and commitment and have few, if any, close friendships. They are categorized by their positive view of themselves and a negative view of others.
The second of the two-branched types of the insecure-avoidant model Bartholomew termed the fearful type. These people avoid relationships because they are fearful of being rejected. They do not risk the hurt that intimacy could bring. It is not that they do not want intimacy like the dismissing individuals, they are scared. Their parents may have been abusive and distant, but these individuals value attachment relationships. They have a negative view of themselves and feel they are unworthy of someone’s love, leading to their fear they will never find someone to love them. They are self-blaming pleasers in a close relationship. They are determined by their negative self-negative others outlook.
These are the two major theories of adult attachment classifications. Others have made small adaptations to Hazan and Shaver’s or Bartholomew’s basic models, but no